To me, a lament is like a story. Everyone has one, but not everyone knows how to put it into words, or even describe what they're feeling. I've been thinking a lot about the topic of lamenting, and I finally came up with something worth telling.
My mom and I just watched the movie "Letters to Juliet". I had already seen it once in the movie theater, but this time I watched it, I began to think about what direction of my life I am heading in. I don't know if you all are familiar with the story line or not, but it is a classic love story about how destiny brought a man and woman together through his grandmother, searching for her long-lost love. You might be surprised, but I did indeed cry at the end. Like every other love story, everyone lived happily ever after and everyone was with who they were supposed to be with.
Then I got to thinking....is that really how life works? I know I'm young and haven't experienced life yet, but I know enough to be skeptical about destiny. I've messed up in the past, a lot. But that's not what this is about. This blog about lamenting is directed towards my worries about love. People I've come across in my almost 17 years have given me a reason to worry. You may call me stupid or ignorant or selfish, but I have reason to worry.
I don't want to get too personal, because this is just a blog, but I reccomend you all watching "Letters to Juliet" and really thinking about your destiny.
So are you lamenting the fear of love or the fear that love won't work out for you--at least, not in the nice, neat "happily-ever-after" package that movies like LETTERS TO JULIET portray? It definitely was a harsh hit of reality when I came to the realization that marriage isn't the wonderful "ride off into the sunset," "happily-ever-after," sunshine and roses life stories and fairy tales seemed to promise. Rather, marriage--love--is exactly what Gary Smalley says--it's a CHOICE....
ReplyDeleteI'll leave it at that....for now.....
I liked this post (mostly because I'm skeptical of romance also), but I thought it was a little vague. Are you comparing "Letters to Juliet" with "The Wife's Lament?" (I haven't seen "Letters to Juliet" yet.)
ReplyDeleteSarah, I completely agree with you. There are tons of people who I have met and they worry me. Most times it's because of the choices they make or the way they treat my friends or me. Other times it is because they do not respect themselves enough to respect others.
ReplyDeleteTo begin with, this is written all from my perspective, just to make that clear. But honestly, I do not see how anyone is capable of loving someone if they do not love themselves first; flaws and everything. It might be possible, but from my experience, I know I am not capable of true love because I have not accepted myself as a human and do not love myself first. This is not the vain kind of love, but they acceptance love.
Sarah, you know that I am always here for you, no matter what they problem. And honestly, you are a great person and anyone would be lucky to have you. Don't fret about the future, it will eventually play out in your favor. Just live your life as a teenager, you deserve it. Love is not something that we should have to worry about. We need to worry about smoking drugs, getting pulled over by the police, and calling our parents telling them to come bail us out of jail.
And here is where I end. Fin.
Lizzy: Yes, I am.
ReplyDeletePeter: Thank you :) And same for me. You're a really great friend, and I'm always here too.